I LOVE MY TEACHER MORE THAN MY MOTHER

I LOVE MY TEACHER MORE THAN MY MOTHER

I kept on saying this to everyone and I say it over and over again, till my mother barged into my room one night, woke me up and said "What exactly did I do wrong?"
This was the first time the woman who gave birth to me sat close to me in two years.
   Of course! I had all a child could have, I got all the toys I wanted, I eat anything I want to eat. But I never had the time I really craved for.
I am not blind to know that mummy needs to work so we can feed well. At the same time daddy works too. So I was basically left in the hands of my maid and my home lesson teacher.

These are the two people I spend my day with, because I see Mom only when I'm bathing and getting ready for school in the morning when she would hurriedly throw a kiss at me and winks out.

Ooopz! Here she goes again.

I really do not attach more blames to Dad, because I know he is the head of the family hence he needs to be hardworking so we don't lack. Mum should work too, did you just whisper that?
 Of course, I know it is not an offence for mom to work but then Mom took the job over her child. This is the same woman who bought me a book on how to set my priorities right as a child. I was a neglected child who craved for attention but was rather given a compensation for everytime they deprived me, by buying me everything they feel I would need.

Here is my lesson teacher, a woman who talks to me everyday, because my parents aren’t available . So they paid her to come on a daily basis to help get my homework done.  I see her everyday, and we talk everyday. She is my best friend, someone who understands me so well. I reserve my school gist for her everyday because before we commence our evening class she would always ask "Tell me about your day?, what happened in school today" And I would happily and innocently tell her everything  from the school assembly to the school breaks and then the closing hour. My lesson tutor would listen with keen interest even to the funny ones. Having created this atmosphere, then we commence teaching and solving of homeworks. 

My teacher was the first person to discover that I am a slow learner, she was the one who took the extra effort to send a note to

my school teacher to handle me differently in class because what other kids would learn in 15minutes, I would learn in 45 minutes. This really helped me because I became a better pupil in class...

I didn't make this affirmative statement to say i don't like my mother at all, i also love her so much for many reasons, just that i needed her to know that there are times i need to tell her about what Tolani said at the playground today, there are times she needs to know when Moyinoluwa helped me in class today,  don't get it twisted, My mom is hardworking, and the most caring mother any child can have.

HERE IS WHAT WE ARE SAYING:

No one is condemning the working class mothers, Of course, its an excellent decision to work as a woman. BUT PLEASE: STRIKE A BALANCE! 

The work is important, The home is important too,
The kids are also important.

Hence to the Mothers i write! 
Do not neglect your duty as a wife to your husband, and a mother to your children.

The reason some of us today had a better life was Because our Mothers in ages past had all the time to spend with the children! 

Oh, gone are the days of moonlight stories. Here are the days of telemundo, nickoledeon, (cartoons), the era of ipads and iPhone.

It is when you deny your children the privilege to talk and express themselves to you that they seek solace from other source(s).
Children naturally believe their teachers, they seldom believe their friends too.
Therefore out of your busy schedule, create time for your children.


Yetunde Adedokun

Kids Advocate