DINING AND THE KIDS

DINING AND THE KIDS 

I don't know why my parents stopped eating at the dining table, no wonder they usually have little fights stay longer now before it is settled.
While I was five (5) and my sister was seven (7) we dare not eat till our parents were back from work? My Mom wouldn't eat till her husband gets back and Dad wouldn't eat till his wife return home too!
These has been the eating pattern we observe in our home!
Now I am eleven(11) and my elder sister is thirteen (13) Nobody gives a damn about where you eat!

But I give a damn to look deep into the difference.
My parents argue a lot these days and end up with unsettled issues.

My sister no longer talks about her school activities which was something I enjoyed listening to after eating.

And me! I have grown to be an introvert who doesn't talk because my family wasn't bonded any longer to the place where we all used to talk.
That's the DINING TABLE

WE talk before meal(s), say our prayers and eat.
We talk after meals, Clear the dishes and everyone either get into their rooms or engage in something else depending on which meal time it was: (breakfast, lunch, dinner)
Several times, anyone who didn’t have the opportunity to talk at breakfast would talk at lunch or at dinner. But there is always a time to talk.

This talk isn't planned for, you know! It just happened, because everyone is Present...

A FAMILY THAT EATS TOGETHER STAYS TOGETHER

I heard about this statement while in grade six at Elementary school and I felt really bad as to how the ignorance of my parents, and their busy lives has affected the Bonding of Our Dear Family.

Kid two (2) 
Ever since my Dad stopped eating at the dining, the family's relationship had been affected. Some years back! My dad would scold you if you dare send(s) his children away from the dining to avoid them spilling the neatly arranged table dressings ! Or to avoid them scattering the well arranged dining table. Dad would scream : "Is the dining for a decoration?"
Little did I realize that at the table I subconsciously relates everything that happened in school to mom and dad and I smile at the adult jokes my parent throw at each other. What I discovered was that eating together made us bond together.
What you don't say or talk about can become an assumption hence we speak out when we are together in our house. But now! The story has changed.
My parents no longer see it as something we need to do.

Mom eats in her bedroom sometimes dad sit outside to eat. It doesn't mean we are no longer a family but it reduced the level at which we talk to each other at home and now i think I have a lot of things i do that my parents don't know about.

This is what we are saying

Eating together as a family gives you a unique opportunity to connect with your children

It promotes family togetherness..

It improves the academic performance of your children.

It creates chances for healthy meals

Psychologically it makes  your children happier

Hence! to the Parents we Write!

Do not neglect the table alter, where eating, praying and talking is made easier for everyone in the family.

Hey! We not neglecting the table manners that state: do not talk while eating but we are insinuating that talking can take place immediately after eating while we’re still sitting at OUR DINING ROOM.


Yetunde ADEDOKUN 🇳🇬

©Kids Advocate

I LOVE MY TEACHER MORE THAN MY MOTHER

I LOVE MY TEACHER MORE THAN MY MOTHER

I kept on saying this to everyone and I say it over and over again, till my mother barged into my room one night, woke me up and said "What exactly did I do wrong?"
This was the first time the woman who gave birth to me sat close to me in two years.
   Of course! I had all a child could have, I got all the toys I wanted, I eat anything I want to eat. But I never had the time I really craved for.
I am not blind to know that mummy needs to work so we can feed well. At the same time daddy works too. So I was basically left in the hands of my maid and my home lesson teacher.

These are the two people I spend my day with, because I see Mom only when I'm bathing and getting ready for school in the morning when she would hurriedly throw a kiss at me and winks out.

Ooopz! Here she goes again.

I really do not attach more blames to Dad, because I know he is the head of the family hence he needs to be hardworking so we don't lack. Mum should work too, did you just whisper that?
 Of course, I know it is not an offence for mom to work but then Mom took the job over her child. This is the same woman who bought me a book on how to set my priorities right as a child. I was a neglected child who craved for attention but was rather given a compensation for everytime they deprived me, by buying me everything they feel I would need.

Here is my lesson teacher, a woman who talks to me everyday, because my parents aren’t available . So they paid her to come on a daily basis to help get my homework done.  I see her everyday, and we talk everyday. She is my best friend, someone who understands me so well. I reserve my school gist for her everyday because before we commence our evening class she would always ask "Tell me about your day?, what happened in school today" And I would happily and innocently tell her everything  from the school assembly to the school breaks and then the closing hour. My lesson tutor would listen with keen interest even to the funny ones. Having created this atmosphere, then we commence teaching and solving of homeworks. 

My teacher was the first person to discover that I am a slow learner, she was the one who took the extra effort to send a note to

my school teacher to handle me differently in class because what other kids would learn in 15minutes, I would learn in 45 minutes. This really helped me because I became a better pupil in class...

I didn't make this affirmative statement to say i don't like my mother at all, i also love her so much for many reasons, just that i needed her to know that there are times i need to tell her about what Tolani said at the playground today, there are times she needs to know when Moyinoluwa helped me in class today,  don't get it twisted, My mom is hardworking, and the most caring mother any child can have.

HERE IS WHAT WE ARE SAYING:

No one is condemning the working class mothers, Of course, its an excellent decision to work as a woman. BUT PLEASE: STRIKE A BALANCE! 

The work is important, The home is important too,
The kids are also important.

Hence to the Mothers i write! 
Do not neglect your duty as a wife to your husband, and a mother to your children.

The reason some of us today had a better life was Because our Mothers in ages past had all the time to spend with the children! 

Oh, gone are the days of moonlight stories. Here are the days of telemundo, nickoledeon, (cartoons), the era of ipads and iPhone.

It is when you deny your children the privilege to talk and express themselves to you that they seek solace from other source(s).
Children naturally believe their teachers, they seldom believe their friends too.
Therefore out of your busy schedule, create time for your children.


Yetunde Adedokun

Kids Advocate

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Yetunde Adedokun
KIds Advocate.

Hi everyone,
I welcome you to the KidsAdvocate blogspot.
I had always been waiting for this opportunity to speak my thought to the public.
 First and foremost my appreciation goes to Almighty God who made this dream a reality for me, i must not fail to express my deep appreciation to the Director of the KidsAdvocate foundation (K.A.F) Adedokun Yetunde.

The vision of the KidsAdvocate is to Help our parents see the world from the perspective of their children.

AND one of our Mission Statement says "Helping Parents who are financially Handicap" that means, it is in our Agenda to help parents in paying part of the bills of their kids in school. It is not giving scholarship, it is helping them stay in school for some time by paying part of the school fees debt...

As a secondary school student, I have been opportuned to see students from different kinds of home. I have seen students who are from wealthy homes but knows nothing when it comes to school work. I have also seen intelligent students who end up dropping out of school because their parents can no longer pay their fees.

*Hence,* to the nongovernment organizations I write:

*Helping children* should not be based on acquiring skills alone, there should  be a means of helping children from homes where their parents are financially handicap.
Here is the reason I salute Adedokun Yetunde, the brain behind *KIDSADVOCATE*
 foundation
who recognises this need and has decided to help children from such homes but she can't do it alone. I  hereby  *PLEAD* with older existing NGOs , noble and wealthy people in the society, celebrities all over, government parastatas to please look critically into the education system and help students who are academically sound but due to financial incapability of their parents  dropped out of school.

Thanks for reading, but please note that some School children are craving and praying for *HELPERS*

HELP a child get back to school.

Thanks.
I am Moyinoluwa Ajisafe.

I write on Behalf of my Fellow Student. Who seriously needs to get back to school and study.


God bless you!!!



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Yetunde Adedokun

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