NOT A CHILD FOREVER

NOT A CHILD FOREVER


"Stop treating me like a child!"
yelled EbunOluwa, "I won't take it anymore!"
"I am seven (7)years old, but someday in the future I won't be seven (7)years anymore."
"You will never let me do things on my own, you won't even let me eat my food myself, How long will you continue to do this Mum? I am tired. I want to live like every other kid in my class."

"EbunOluwa, I can't let you live like every other kids in your class. You are my Only child and I am only helping you to avoid stress, I just want you to know that Mum cares."
  "My darling, please try and understand that I am doing all these for the love I have for you as my only child, trust me by the time you are a grown up I will let you do things you want to do the way you wish to do them. okay?"


     Ooopz !
What exactly is wrong with our mothers? What has gone wrong with our sense of reasoning? I really care to know why the  mothers in this generation think the way they do:
How long will you continue to damage the future of a child?  Who told you that you can't show love to your kids and still allow them do the things that should be done themselves?
No one is saying you shouldn't show your children just how much you love them, Oh! no one is saying don't buy them whatever they ask as much as you can afford it.
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Here is what we are saying!
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Allow a child explore certain activities even as a child: the earlier you let them learn to do things on their own, the earlier they get exposed to independence; the freedom to organise their own life and make their own decision without the influence of other people. Hence a better adulthood.

Help a child develop self confidence at a very young age, such children grow up to be smart, confident and have a good personality traits. Allow them make mistakes, correct them gently and they will do it better next time.

You won't always be there to get everything done for them in life. You can as well start helping them grow now by guiding them in carrying out activities instead of doing it all for them. Watch them grow, not grow for them. Help them with their assignments; not do it for them. They can start learning how to wash their own dishes, clothes etc. Teach them, guide them, help them understand why, correct them. But please don't do for a kid what he can do for himself or herself.

It is high time parents learnt to allow their children express themselves no matter how little they are as this helps them in their growth to adulthood.
There is a thick-line between childhood and adulthood. The way you train a child is the way they grow to-be, (prov22:6)
  EbunOluwa who is just seven (7) years old today will be seventeen (17) years in ten years to come and twenty-seven years in twenty years.
 Hence He will not be a Child Forever and he will be grateful if allowed to grow without unneeded assistance.

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